Especially when lying under a bed in the dark on drugs.
Relationship experts have identified at least seven types of romantic love, including “escapist love” and “self-loathing” love.
The former reflects the hope that the love object will provide escape from an unhappy life. The latter, often involving various kinds of abuse, provides comforting confirmation that the abused is, in fact, unworthy and deserves to be treated badly.
Precisely which kind of “love” was at play at about 11 a.m. on Saturday, Sept. 7, at a home in the 13600 block of Highway 12 in Glen Ellen, isn’t clear. Perhaps both.
Sheriff’s deputies responded to an anonymous call about a man with a protective order issued against him, who was reportedly at a residence he was forbidden to visit because of a prior incident that included domestic violence and terrorist threats. Dispatch called the residence twice. The first time a woman answered, and when the Sheriff’s dispatcher identified herself, the phone was hung up. A second call resulted in the phone being picked up and hung up.
When deputies arrived, they could hear the muffled voices of a man and a woman inside. Deputies identified themselves and the voices stopped. One deputy jumped the fence into the backyard where there were open windows. Meanwhile, the woman in the house told a deputy at the front door that she was in the shower. She eventually came to the door, nevertheless, and when the deputy asked if the man was in the residence, while shaking her head “yes,” she told the deputy out loud, “no.” After gaining entrance, the deputies started searching for the man, to no avail. They called for a K-9 unit that tracked a scent into the neighboring regional park. But as the dog was tracking, other deputies found the elusive man hiding under a bed in the home.
The woman, it turned out, was aware of the restraining order, but had been hoping to rekindle the romance. The suspect, on the other hand, had nothing to say to the deputies, but was arrested for being under the influence of a controlled substance, resisting or obstructing arrest and violating a court order.
In other incidents reported to Valley law enforcement:
Friday, Aug. 30:
2:40 a.m. – Irrelevant and none of your business? After making contact with three known drug users in the 700 block of Broadway, a Sheriff’s deputy saw a man with an unsteady gait approaching. When the man stopped about four-to-five feet behind the deputy, the deputy asked him if he needed anything. The man wanted to know what was going on; the deputy told him it was none of his business and that he needed to move along. The man insisted on knowing what was going on, so the deputy asked the man how much he had to drink, to which the man replied, “It’s irrelevant and none of your business.”
The deputy then told the man to leave or he’d go to jail because he was interfering with an investigation. The man still refused to leave so the deputy arrested the 32-year-old Sonoma resident on charges of obstruction, public intoxication and a probation violation.
8:41 p.m. – You can run but we know where you live. Sheriff’s deputies responded to the report of a battery at a market in the 18000 block of Sonoma Highway. When deputies arrived, they found that a suspect had walked up to a woman coming out of the market, punched her in the face and fled. Because of prior contacts with the man, deputies were able to find him at a residence on First Avenue and charged Christopher Collins, 29, of Sonoma, with felony battery with serious bodily injury and a probation violation. Collins was arrested and transported to the county jail.
Saturday, Aug. 31:
11:06 a.m. – Forced entry, minor theft. A resident in the 300 block of First Street East reported that sometime between Aug. 29 and Aug. 31, someone gained access to the residence, which is undergoing a major renovation. Several dressers had been ransacked, but the only thing missing was $10 to $15 from a nightstand.
10:45 a.m. – Was that a Bud Light on TV? On Thursday, Aug. 29, at about 4 a.m., two individuals walked into a convenience store in the 18000 block of Railroad avenue, grabbed three 18-packs of a well-known, but lightly regarded beer, and ran out of the store. A deputy reviewing the report went back to the store to see if there was any security camera video. There was, and the deputy recognized both individuals as what authorities refer to as “frequent fliers.” The deputy went to the residence of one of the men, Henry Morgan, 20, of the Springs, and asked him about the incident. After first denying he had anything to do with the beer heist, he muttered an expletive when the deputy showed him a picture of the theft in progress taken from the store’s security camera. Morgan was arrested and charged with felony burglary and felony conspiracy to commit a crime, and was transported to the county jail.
Sunday, Sept. 1:
1:06 a.m. – Wrong time to run stop sign. While on patrol in the vicinity of Second Street West and West Napa, a Sonoma police officer stopped a female motorist who failed to stop at a stop sign. As the officer talked with the driver, he detected a strong odor of alcohol. The 36-year-old Santa Rosa resident admitted to drinking several pints of beer. After administering field sobriety tests, the officer took the woman to the police department where she registered a .153 on a PAS. She was arrested and charged with driving under the influence.
2:25 a.m. – Wrong place to drive fast. While on patrol in the area of Fifth Street West and West Spain Street, a police officer saw a vehicle coming toward him at a high rate of speed and the motorist slammed on the brakes at the stop sign. Once confronted, the motorist admitted to drinking an unspecified amount of alcohol. It was enough that the 37-year-old El Verano resident registered a .129 on the PAS. The man was arrested on charges of driving under the influence.
10:46 a.m. – Burglary nets nothing. Sometime overnight, someone cut the padlock and entered a barn at the Sonoma Garden Park in the 19000 block of Seventh Street East. The burglar made off with a cash register that contained no money.
Monday, Sept. 2:
2 a.m. – Wrong time to navigate negligently. A police officer noticed a vehicle that had left a saloon on Sonoma Highway navigating erratically. After stopping the vehicle in the 19000 block of Sonoma Highway, the officer noticed all the usual signs of someone who had been imbibing. The female motorist registered a .23 on the PAS and she was cited for driving under the influence.
8:38 a.m. – Shop, grab, drop, run. In an incident that occurred on Aug. 28, a man in his 20s was observed putting things in a backpack at a business in the 200 block of West Napa Street. After the man left the store, the manager confronted him and the suspect dropped the backpack and fled. After determining the backpack contained $1,400 in shoplifted goods, the manager decided to report it based on the cost. Officers looked at the security video and are currently looking for the suspect.
11:40 a.m. – Old car, easy to open. A motorist who parked his vehicle in a lot in the 18000 block of Sonoma Highway, returned a few minutes later to find an iPhone and an iPad that he had left on the passenger seat, missing. The man had locked the vehicle, but it was a 1980s model with windows that could be easily pried open. The loss was estimated at $600.
Thursday, Sept. 5:
9:57 a.m. – Troubled teen. The school resource officer at Sonoma Valley High was contacted by an administrator about a 15-year-old girl who was having behavior issues. When the officer started talking with the teen, she told him that she was an undercover cop and needed to know about Napa. She also told the officer, among other rambling statements, that her mother had stabbed her in the stomach the day before. She also admitted to using methamphetamine and she was arrested for being under the influence of a controlled substance and taken to juvenile hall.
The next day, at about 1:30 p.m., Sonoma police were sent to a residence on Andrieux Street after receiving a report about a missing mother. What they found instead was the same 15-year-old girl, who told them once again that she was an undercover cop. She also told police she had had a baby the day before; that she had had a baby that day; and that her mother stabbed her in the stomach the day before. She was again charged with being under the influence of a controlled substance and escorted to juvenile hall.
Saturday, Sept. 7:
12:20 a.m. – Denying implied consent. After a Sonoma police officer pulled over a Tiburon motorist for speeding in the 200 block of First Street West, the driver chose not to cooperate. When he got out of his vehicle, the driver was talking to someone on his cellphone. When the officer asked to whom he was talking, the motorist told him it was “none of your business” and then, while still talking on his phone, started to walk away. The officer stopped him, and after noticing the usual signs of intoxication, asked the man to take a field sobriety test. The motorist refused.
The officer reminded the recalcitrant driver of California’s implied consent law, that stipulates possession of a driver’s license implies consent to a demand for blood or urine testing for the purpose of determining alcohol or drug use. Refusal to consent is grounds for an automatic, one-year suspension of the driver’s license. Thus informed, the motorist still refused.
The officer arrested the 28-year-old man on charges of driving under the influence and took him to the police station where he again refused any sort of test. After being supplied with a test refusal form, the uncooperative intoxicant was delivered to the county jail and booked for DUI.
1:45 a.m. – Belt buckle or brass knuckle? A Redwood City resident lost an argument with a Sonoma County Sheriff’s deputy over whether the man was carrying a set of metal knuckles or a belt buckle.
The deputy was on patrol in the vicinity of Eight Street East and Napa Road when he saw a vehicle weaving across the double yellow line. After he pulled the motorist over, the deputy saw a plastic bag hanging out of the man’s pants. The deputy asked if the man had anything in his pockets that could be a danger to the deputy. The man replied, “I’ve got a bunch of stuff in my pockets.”
The deputy discovered that the plastic bag contained shoelaces, but in another pocket he came across a set of metal knuckles. The driver said he was in the process of moving and that he had forgotten the knuckles were in his pocket. Besides, the man said, they weren’t knuckles, but rather a belt buckle. The deputy could find no means by which to attach a belt to the knuckles, and cited the 19-year-old man for possession of metal knuckles and took possession of them.
9:30 a.m. – Stealing tips to buy ice cream. Sonoma police arrested a 30-year-old transient who had walked out of an ice cream store in the 200 block of West Napa Street the evening before, with the tip-jar under his shirt. Several minutes later, the man returned to the store to buy ice cream, presumably with the money he had just stolen from the store. The matter was turned over to the city prosecutor for petty theft charges.
Sunday, Sept. 9:
1:15 a.m. – That’s not my meth pipe. While on patrol around the Plaza, police officers came across a motorist who, while trying to back out of a parking place, was grinding the gears in his truck. The truck also had a broken front windshield partially obscuring the drive’s sight. The driver, a 27-year-old Agua Caliente resident, told the officers that he didn’t have a license or a wallet. He gave police permission to search the vehicle and when an officer found a glass pipe in the glove box, the man claimed it wasn’t his. He told the officer it belonged to a woman passenger, but he could neither come up with a name nor a clothing description of the alleged woman. The man was cited for possession of drug paraphernalia and driving on a suspended license.
1:44 a.m. – A little late-night craziness. Sonoma police officers were flagged down by pedestrians in the 400 block of First Street West to report a fight that had already broken up. Officers didn’t have far to go before finding one of the combatants in a doorway at 457 First St. W. The man was bloodied, intoxicated and could do little more than groan when asked questions. An ambulance transported the man to Queen of the Valley Hospital in Napa. A second man, who turned out to be the victim, came out of the Plaza and told officers he and a friend were having a cigarette when the unknown assailant grabbed him from behind in a headlock. The victim wiggled free of the assailant punched him in the face four of five times and then kicked him in the chest. Witnesses said the assailant had been kicked out of a Plaza tavern a little earlier for his drunken, aggressive behavior. Officers charged the man, a 25-year-old Boyes Hot Springs resident, with assault with a deadly weapon, not a firearm, and a probation violation. While this was unfolding, one of the spectators on the sidewalk who was behaving in an obnoxious manner was told by police to leave. He did, but an hour later he stumbled out of the Plaza park and stood in the middle of the road at First Street West and West Napa swaying. Deciding the 38-year-old man was unable to care for himself, officers arrested him and charged him with public intoxication.
Monday, Sept. 9:
9:47 a.m. – OK on the computer but not the IDF. A resident in the 200 block of West Napa Street, reported that on Sept. 6, someone had used his Chase credit card number to buy a $306 computer from Walmart.com. He discovered the merchandise was to be shipped to San Diego and managed to get the shipment stopped. The man also found that a second, $100 charge, to the Israeli Defense Fund, had been declined by his bank.
Wednesday, Sept. 11:
4:30 p.m. – What is it about EPO you don’t understand? A 31-year-old Sonoma man was arrested after he apparently was unclear on the concept of an emergency protective order (EPO). An officer served the man with the EPO at his residence. An hour later, officers were sent to another residence, in the 400 block of Bettencourt Street, where the same man was outside the home, yelling at his girl friend’s father about the EPO. Since he was inside the 100-foot EPO boundary, the man was arrested on charges of violating a court order.
Thursday, Sept. 12:
3 p.m. – A chunk of hair and juvenile hall. A fight between two girls at Sonoma Valley High School left one missing a big chunk of hair and the other in juvenile hall on charges of battery. The brouhaha was reportedly a continuation of a fight that occurred between the two the week before and, after it was all sorted out, a 16-year-old Sonoma girl ended up in juvenile hall with the battery charges.