By Monica Rosales
For the past four years, we have been going trick or treating in the Fryer Creek area along all the homes across from Train Town, and we have always had a fun and friendly experience. Until this year.
Victoria, who is 10-years-old, decided to be a Dodgers baseball player, because she is a huge fan. So here we go, getting the kids all ready and they’re as excited as any kid would be for Halloween. Victoria is waiting anxiously with her mitt and ball and bag for candy while we all get out the car, the biggest smile on her face, not just because she was dressed up and was going to get treats, but because she was so proud of her costume.
So off we go, and there must have been 10 to 15 different houses where grown adults were handing out candy had negative comments about Victoria’s Dodger costume.
Comments like: “Oh come on, Dodgers?,” “Boo Dodgers,” “Oh, why a Dodgers costume?” At the same time, the other kids were getting comments like, “Awww, how cute, nice costume, yay a fairy, aww a little monkey.” But then to Victoria, “Oh come on.” It was sad.
I could see her slowly shutting down, and I would say to her, “Hey, they are just playing” and “they’re a little jealous cause we did awesome this year.” And she would just smile and look down. Then it was at a particular lady’s house – a woman in her 50s or 60s – that Victoria just broke down. This lady handed out the candies to the other kids. I was standing behind Victoria with the baby when the lady just looked at Victoria as she held her candy bag open, and said “I don’t give candy to Dodger’s fans.” I said, “Excuse me?” She then said, “I don’t give candy to Dodger fans. You should know this is Giants territory.”
I then told the lady “She’s a little girl; are you serious?” At that point, she dropped candy in Victoria’s bag. I put my arm around her shoulders and said, “It’s OK. She’s just jealous because your team is awesome.” The lady shouted out, “I was just playing.” It was at that point that Victoria broke down, hid her face into me, started crying hard and didn’t want to trick or treat anymore.
This woman and other adults took away her excitement, and that made me very sad because I always want my children to be proud of what they want and what they believe in. As we left I whispered into her ear, “I love you and I will always be your number one fan.”
I was completely thrown off guard since I didn’t expect all the comments from different people about a kid’s costume. These are innocent kids who look up to us adults. As adults, we should be setting good examples. I always tell the kids, “No bullying. It’s not okay whatsoever.”
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Monica Rosales is a resident of Sonoma.