Especially when lying under a bed in the dark on drugs.
Relationship experts have identified at least seven types of romantic love, including “escapist love” and “self-loathing” love.
The former reflects the hope that the love object will provide escape from an unhappy life. The latter, often involving various kinds of abuse, provides comforting confirmation that the abused is, in fact, unworthy and deserves to be treated badly.
Precisely which kind of “love” was at play at about 11 a.m. on Saturday, Sept. 7, at a home in the 13600 block of Highway 12 in Glen Ellen, isn’t clear. Perhaps both.
Sheriff’s deputies responded to an anonymous call about a man with a protective order issued against him, who was reportedly at a residence he was forbidden to visit because of a prior incident that included domestic violence and terrorist threats. Dispatch called the residence twice. The first time a woman answered, and when the Sheriff’s dispatcher identified herself, the phone was hung up. A second call resulted in the phone being picked up and hung up.
When deputies arrived, they could hear the muffled voices of a man and a woman inside. Deputies identified themselves and the voices stopped. One deputy jumped the fence into the backyard where there were open windows. Meanwhile, the woman in the house told a deputy at the front door that she was in the shower. She eventually came to the door, nevertheless, and when the deputy asked if the man was in the residence, while shaking her head “yes,” she told the deputy out loud, “no.” After gaining entrance, the deputies started searching for the man, to no avail. They called for a K-9 unit that tracked a scent into the neighboring regional park. But as the dog was tracking, other deputies found the elusive man hiding under a bed in the home.
The woman, it turned out, was aware of the restraining order, but had been hoping to rekindle the romance. The suspect, on the other hand, had nothing to say to the deputies, but was arrested for being under the influence of a controlled substance, resisting or obstructing arrest and violating a court order.
In other incidents reported to Valley law enforcement:
Friday, Aug. 30:
2:40 a.m. – Irrelevant and none of your business? After making contact with three known drug users in the 700 block of Broadway, a Sheriff’s deputy saw a man with an unsteady gait approaching. When the man stopped about four-to-five feet behind the deputy, the deputy asked him if he needed anything. The man wanted to know what was going on; the deputy told him it was none of his business and that he needed to move along. The man insisted on knowing what was going on, so the deputy asked the man how much he had to drink, to which the man replied, “It’s irrelevant and none of your business.”
The deputy then told the man to leave or he’d go to jail because he was interfering with an investigation. The man still refused to leave so the deputy arrested the 32-year-old Sonoma resident on charges of obstruction, public intoxication and a probation violation.